There’s this man that I love, you may remember him, his name is Brian. We’re actually getting married pretty soon, did you know? Yeah. It’s a thing.
Here’s another thing. Coffee. Go ahead and roll your eyes or fake gag or whatever you do (I’m looking at you, you know who you are..) but ask any marriage counselor or any divorcee or any married couple that’s been together for a bajillionity years, or ask anyone, anywhere, ever… “What is the key to a successful relationship?” The answer is always the same. Coffee. Coffee is what keeps us together.
Brian and I met in 2013, kinda by accident, kinda not. It’s a long story. But neither of us were looking for anything. I really wasn’t interested in a relationship and neither was he, and then… we met. And things started changing. We talked on the phone a few times, and very early, I went to Mexico for vacation. We had only known each other for five or six weeks. We weren’t dating. He was just Amber’s boss that I might potentially be traveling to Ireland with. Maybe. Anywhoo, I was in Mexico and there isn’t interwebs everywhere like there is here. There’s also no air conditioning or hot water in Casa de Lisa. The hot nights coupled with the fact that I’m really a morning person, meant that I was awake every morning at 5 am. I would shower and then make coffee and sit on Lisa’s patio and …… Brian was usually online.
Clarification: I have since gotten to know Brian and he is most certainly not a 5 am kind of guy. I think he was only waking up that early because he’d noticed that it was the only time I was online. He tricked me.
Anyway. That’s kinda where it started. We started having coffee together. Once I was home, it was just a couple of times a week, and gradually, every morning. Now, we talk on the phone several times a day and always, just before bed, one of us will say, “Coffee in the morning?”
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This morning, I was sitting on the porch having Coffee with Brian and we were talking about the most important thing going on in America right now. The eclipse. We are taking a mini vacation this weekend, taking the kids and heading north. Brian has been watching the weather, we ordered glasses, we have hotel reservations…. It’s a serious thing. I’ll tell you a secret, Brian has been planning this since he was in 4th grade. Not kidding. So we’re talking back and forth about how he’s been planning this.. for decades…
Brian: I know I’m super geeking out about this.. but I’m excited!
Me: Babe, I get it. You’re going to Griswold the eff out of this. It’s ok.
Brian: I’ve been researching this since before Google was invented!!
Me: You had to use BOOKS!
Brian: I KNOW! With the Dewey Decimal system and everything!!!
And then we actually, legit, spent the next 20 minutes discussing the Dewey Decimal system, how we both know it and how they don’t use it anymore and “Damn kids these days.. it’s a system that WORKS!!” and how we’re building a library in the new house and how we’ve both always wanted to own an old card catalog file, but what would you put in it? That dumb bar going the length of each drawer. Maybe we should catalog all of our own books using the DDS just to show off!! Yeah!…….
This is why I am in love with this man.
There is so much going on in the world and in our own lives.. and we talk about politics and bills and kids and stuff. But… we talk about card catalogs and people lining up for miles to get eclipse glasses and smashed pennies and the best way to catch crawdads.
He gets me.